It can be a tricky road navigating life as a single woman at 40 but by this age, its expectes that you've seen and experienced some things that have made you a bit wiser than you were in your younger years. Here are a few tips to help you:
1. Expect Nothing: When you lower your expectations, you begin to settle for what's available rather than what you deserve. Things such as tall, rich and handsome may not be entirely necessary. A wise woman once said "let life come to you".
2. The ONE is A Myth: This feeling that there's only one soul out there meant for us comes from an idea of scarcity. We tend to overthink, overanalyze and generally drive ourselves crazy trying to figure out if this is the 'ONE'. There is plenty of love available to human beings. Enjoy the ride and know that answers will come to you.
3. Too Grand to Play Small: By this time, you know what you have to offer in a relationship. This is not the time to hide or play small or God-help us, act like a dingbat so they'll think we're cute. Been there, done that...20 years ago.
4. Be Classier Than That: There are only few types of photos that a man whom you're not married to should ever see of you on his phone and none them involve being naked. If you wouldnt want to see it on the bulletin board at your office in the morning, then dont send it to your new man. This is something that people in their 20s and 30s do. It doesnt mean you have to participate, 'cos you're classier than that.
5. Trust your gut: Women are intuitive creatures, but we can easily ignore our own inner voice when our minds start talking too loudly. We know when love is real and when it's not. We know it feels different when it's right. We only ignore that feeling when we don't like the answer. Tune in. Your inner voice- what's on your heart- may get quiet but it never stops talking.
In the words of Maya Angelou 'When you know better, you do better'.
Source: Sharon Pope
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